Marry Me? (Pt. 2)

July 12, 2011 Comments Off on Marry Me? (Pt. 2)

“To the pure, all things are pure, but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure; but both their minds and their consciences are defiled. They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work.” -Titus 1:15-16

Throughout life we are faced with many challenges. Challenges that require great patience and discernment, but one of the most impacting decisions you will ever make is whom you will marry.

While there are many qualities that you may desire for your mate to posses, I want you to hear one warning as you go about searching for who you want to marry.

Not everyone is who they say they are.

Just because they say they are a christian and believe in God doesn’t mean that they truly are. Understand this, even the devil himself believes in Jesus– he was once an angel, but he does not worship and serve Him. Are you so easily fooled into trusting someone just because they say they are a christian? Do you let your guard down just because they sit in church with you every sunday? 2 Corinthians 11:13-14 says “For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.”

Romans 14:11 tell us “For it is written, “As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.” Every knee will bow and I do mean every- one day. However, not everyone will inherit the kingdom of Heaven.

Matthew 7:15 tells us to be weary of “wolves in sheeps clothing”. For you see, everyone can be nice, charming, and respectful for a season, but you must learn not to form your opinions on what you hear, but rather by what you see in their life. Are they spending one-on-one time with God? Is God first in their life and priorities? Do they put God first financially and serve His kingdom?

If someone cannot explicitly describe the day they gave their life to Christ and what it meant to them, then you better run from this person. This should be the first question you ever ask anyone that you are seriously debating about getting into a deeper relationship with.

If they truly believing in Jesus, no matter the circumstance, they will never ask or demand you to compromise yourself for anything. Men are called to lead the relationship in an exemplary manner and be supportive of the goals the woman has for her life.

Women want to be loved and men want to be respected. Understanding this principal is key to having a successful relationship, but you will never gain anyones permanent love and respect by indulging in their ungodly desires. Giving into sexual favors in a long road to a deep, dark dead-end. They may say they love you because of what you do, but that love will never last and is only a ticking time bomb in their heart before they get bored and move on- leaving you broken.

From personal experience I know that so often times, especially in the South, that people want you to believe that God is apart of their life because they know you are a great person, but they are only looking to suck that God-given greatness out of you by decieving you into thinking they are something they are not.

Trust yourself. God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, so I don’t want you wandering about believing that the person in your life isn’t a christian. Moreover, I am only wanting to encourage you to dig deeper with the person you are dating and to be cautious as to understanding that actions do, in fact, speak louder than words. Remembering that everyone can act a certain way for a season, but cannot put on a show forever.

Be on your guard at all times, God has called to you to be something greater than you can imagine and has someone greater than you can imagine lined up for you to be apart of that calling. Walk in faith that God will strengthen you and reveal to you the truth of your relationships, you just have to be willing to accept whatever you find out and trust Him.

“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.” -Matthew 7:21-23


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