Pursing: What Am I, Why Am I?
November 9, 2011 Comments Off on Pursing: What Am I, Why Am I?
How many of you have ever heard or said this statement: “He/She is such a great person and I love everything about them, but I just wish they were more attractive…Then I’d want to date them”? But why do we say that?
The truth of the matter is, they really are a great person and are precisely the person you need to be dating. Why?
Our society has become obsessed with attractiveness to physical qualities and even popularity. Our eyes are poisoned and drawn to tan skin, toned muscles, and big curves.
The problem: We are drawn to wanting to pursue sin with these people without even knowing it. We are allowing ourself to pursue their physical nature, something that isn’t constant, rather than the things that we need to be. We want attractive significant others to enjoy our physical pleasure- now I am not meaning just sex, but anything of physical pleasure for the only reason of just experiencing the pleasure.
At the heart of the matter, we have subconsciously trained ourselves to believe that we are only going to find love, happiness, and joy in a relationship if he is muscular, chizled, and she has toned legs and a incredible face. We want all our friends to be jealous of how attractive our boyfriend/girlfriend is.
ASK YOURSELF a question: How many attractive people do you know? Probably a lot. You can pull up tons of them on your facebook page if you made yourself, but ask yourself another question….How many people do you know that if you merely observed from a far without knowing anything about them you would see God’s love and joy in their life? Probably almost none.
Sure physique, smarts, and knowledge are may seem what matters and have been things I have pursued my entire life until last year, but the most beautiful and pure thing you will find in someone is their ability to pursue God. Not their belief in God, but pursue God on a daily basis with so much passion. A immense desire to please God and nobody else.
It is this writers opinion that attraction can be built and sustained at a level far greater than physical desire if you find someone that you enjoy being around rather than staring at like a trophy on a shelf. A love can grow that will not fluctuate based on aging, based on their mood, based on if their hair falls out…
Pursue a body and you will be let down every time, pursue God in them and you will never be dissatisfied.