When the Sun Goes Down

April 22, 2012 Comments Off on When the Sun Goes Down

What about the parents who pray and their child never gets well? What about when the job loss comes? The relationship that never comes together because of the divorce or the cheating? We all have examples in our own life when we asked God for something and  nothing happens. You didn’t do anything wrong, but the events beyond your control forced you away from your dream, your wish.

Sometimes the good, Godly people are the ones that have it the hardest because we think we are doing everything God has asked us to do and nothing is happening.

Nobody can answer what God’s will is, but it’s not a question of “why” God, but “what” do you want to do in my life God?

Seize the opportunity of your adversity to see Gods glory. What if our greatest hurt, our greatest crisis to see what Gods plan is for our life. Seek Him more in this time of pain and confusion.

What would it look like for you to be the miracle in a situation of pain for your life? Seize the potential of the pain to see what God wants to teach you- you have to trust in Jesus as the sun goes down.

God does not always answer our prayers, but He will NEVER waste our faith. God works on our behalf, even when it seems are prayers are being answered. Sometimes the greatest setback in our lives are the greatest setups to see God in our life and to grow a relationship with Him that will last us an entire lifetime.

Unchangeable Easter

April 10, 2012 Comments Off on Unchangeable Easter

 

 

 

“He was buried, and he was raised from the dead on the third day, just as the Scriptures said.” -1 Corinthians 15:4

Easter was this past weekend, but I wanted to touch on an aspect of Easter that I believe gets left out. An important significance of 1 Corinthians 15:4 that isn’t mentioned a lot.

To me, Easter is about an unchangeable situation that everyone deemed was unchangeable. It couldn’t be reversed by the standard of the times, the Romans did everything they could to prevent anything from going in and out of the tomb of Jesus. They had soldiers sand guard and sealed the tomb with an enormous stone that weighed tons. To them and the rest of the world, it was a situation that was unchangeable- he was dead.

For you see, both Daniel (in the lions den) and Lazarus had stones rolled over where they were as well. It was a sign of the time that there was no way of getting out of the situation these people found themselves in- it was unchangeable to society.

But we all know that Jesus was resurrected, Daniel survived the night in the lions den, and Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead. In all three situations, the stone that was supposed to have prevented anything BUT the original plan became a non factor.

Here’s the deal, throughout our life we are going to face situations that we deem would be unchangeable. We face immense trials and hardships that we believe will never end. Maybe it’s a illness, an immense financial crisis, a body image issue, a long drought of singleness without a spouse, or a divorce. All these situations seem unchangeable, we think that there is no way anything could possibly change, we believe that the circumstances cannot possibly ever support a change for the better.

But our unchangeable circumstance is no match for our unchanging God. Our Gods unchanging love, mercy, forgiveness, and freedom that He gives us everyday has far greater power than any of our circumstances. If we remember just how much He loves us and how awesome of a plan He has for our life, I think our “tomb” has a chance to be rolled away.

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Messy Message

December 22, 2011 Comments Off on Messy Message

“But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body.”            -2 Corinthians 4:7-11

Throughout our life we are constantly troubled with difficult circumstances; a job loss, a hurtful relationship, a divorce, an abusive childhood, or many other terrible circumstances. The hardest part of these circumstances is that it produces a sense of loneliness and despair in our lives that we do not normally have to deal with.

Whether it was a season of sexual, drug, or physical abuse, whether it was a time of defying God, or whether it was a time of being in a relationship that was the farthest thing from God we all have things that we regret about our life and wish we could do over.

However, I have found that it is our mess that God uses as our message as His messenger. Some biblical references of the truth of that statement is when Saul was transformed and dedicated his life to Christ as Paul, the woman at the well when Jesus reveals himself to her, the immense trials Job had to face, and many other lives Jesus changed.

Rest assured that the pain and suffering is worth knowing that God will be glorified throughout your life because of the trials you have and will overcome.

Live a life of freedom in Christ because He will hold you up. Know that you can withstand anything that comes against you because God wants to use these very things to be glorified.

No matter just how bad your situation may seem, no matter how far away from God you feel at this moment, He has the power to draw you in and make you clean again- but only if you are willing to believe that He can.

You will be beaten down by life, but never defeated. Find purpose in these difficult seasons of your life and know that God wants to use your mess as your message to others, so that He may be glorified.

Mythbusters (Pt. 2)

September 13, 2011 Comments Off on Mythbusters (Pt. 2)

In my opinion, these are the 7 greatest myths about God, the bible, and christianity facing people today. (Part 2: 4-7)

4. My goal on earth is to survive the world. We are not called to survive this world, but to change this world. The devil leads us to believe that we are merely meant to just survive our trials, survive this lifetime to finally enjoy God in Heaven. While that is partially true, we are never called to survive anything, but to divide and conquer for the Kingdom. Jesus didn’t die for ALL of your sins in hopes that you would survive the world. If He just wanted you to survive then He didn’t even need to lay His life down. Each and every single person is called to something greater, called to a bigger purpose to change the world. It is your uniqueness that makes you powerful, your ability to conquer trials and share your experiences- not just lay them aside and hope to forget them one day. People are going to fail you, but your faith never will. Stand and deliver for The Kingdom. Be the change.

5. I should listen to every piece of advice and criticism I receive (Prov. 13:20-21). Even though someone may tell you that you are wrong or stupid, if God is telling you He wants it done THEY are wrong- God is always right. Not everyone is going to agree with you, you are going to face resistance from even other christians because they are insecure in their faith and don’t like the idea that you’ve found your calling and they haven’t. Hold firm in the promises God has made you and let Him be your friend and walk by your side. Right voices equal right choices. We listen to idiots, some of your friends are stupid. You will listen to you friends while you ignore your parents- we don’t listen to the people that love us the most.  We listen to someone that doesn’t know a thing about our life, one little decision we let them manipulate us into causes us to spend years trying to put our life back into order. We listen to the ones that can gain us the most popularity, not the most prosperity in our faith. You are special, no matter what anyone has ever told you- you matter as a person created in Gods image. Apart from God we are doomed for hell, but with Him we are destined for an eternity glorifying Him with no sorrow, tears, or pain.

6. My parents are divorced, I am doomed to have my heart broken too, so I should shut people out. If you stay close enough to Jesus, He will lift you up every time. We think great people don’t fall, but in reality they fall more than we do, but they know to get back up and show up time and time again. That tragedy of divorce is becoming more and more evident in todays culture more than ever, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to be the next statistic. Yes, that happened to your parents, but it does NOT have to happen to you. The only person you have control over is yourself, you cannot control anyone elses life but your own. Through your parents divorce, you will learn what it means to fight for a relationship, to take down the barriers and to trust someone. The longer you wall up your heart, the longer it’s going to take that special person to take them down. Position yourself in a way to let God free you from this attitude and them to heal you. You cannot look to men and women to be your savior, there is no one capable but Jesus Christ who has the power to calm the storms and make the mountains move. They don’t control your destiny, He does. The longer you date and sleep around trying to heal and look for a solution to your painful problem, the more pain you’re going to cause yourself. Jesus can heal you.

7. I have to be a worship leader, author, or preacher to have an impact in ministry. We spend so much time trying to be like everyone else that we miss the uniqueness in our own life and the gifts God has given us. God has called you to do something or to be somebody special at a special place in a special time. Some people are called to be a doctor for the less privileged, to be a CEO of XYZ corporation that can donate millions of dollars to churches and charities, or maybe even an engineer that will design buildings or technology for people far from God to be filled with life in Christ. For so many of us, we know what God has already called us to be but we are too afraid to embrace the reality of the career God wants us to get on track with because it’s not one with a big house, 6 digit paycheck, or loads of vacation time. It’s not about our life to live, but ours to give to the one that gave us EVERYTHING.

You’re helping the divorce rate

May 30, 2011 Comments Off on You’re helping the divorce rate

Whether you know it or not, society today is teaching you how to help the divorce rate…You just haven’t realized it yet.

To start off this blog…I have a question, what is the difference of your view of dating someone and marrying them?

Now, I can guarantee you your answer is: we get to have sex.

OK, so you’ve just identified 1 of like the many many differences that should be there that aren’t in relationships today.

Today in relationships we think these things are acceptable and normal:

  • Saying “I love you”
  • Sleeping in the same bed
  • Bible studies together (ill explain at the bottom)
  • Sharing things (cars, money, and resources)
See, we try on people like we try on shoes; we wear our shoes until they fade out of color and then go in and buy a brand new pair. We are in relationships while it’s “fun and exciting” and then when it gets boring or we don’t get what we want, we dump them and get something new.
How many times are you going to say “I love you”? It didn’t work in your past 3 relationships and it’s surely not going to work in this one. Saving I love you till marriage is something to teach you patience, it’s never going to save your relationship. You can say I love you as much as you want, but it’s never going to change who you are on the inside, and that is the only thing that builds strong relationships. The only thing that can save your relationship is you being who you are, nothing else can. You can be fake all you want, you can be the person you’re not, but eventually it’s going to come out and come crashing down. God created you in His own, beautiful image and that’s the person you’re supposed to be.
See, we are all too willing to trade in the “80 for the 20”. We are willing to trade in our life filled with a Godly lifestyle full of great things for a sinful, self-centered life that we think will fulfill our desires. Our Godly lifestyle fulfills 80% of our needs, yet we are willing to throw it away for the clubbing, drinking, hurting people lifestyle that only fulfills 20%, but we think we are missing out on that lifestyle or sexual relationship.
So, why are bible studies/quiet times so bad for non-marital relationships? Well, having a God-centered relationship is great! That’s what you want, but you don’t want it to invade the most special places of your heart until you get married. Having a quiet time/bible study causes a dependance on the leader in the relationship, it causes you to depend on that person for your exposure and insight into God and that is bad. If you ever begin to enter into spiritual intimacy with anyone other than Christ, you are leading yourself into a blackhole and dead end. 
So, what do all these things have in common? All these aspects create a dependance on the other person and that leads to deep pain, anxiety, hurt, and potential for a major breakdown when you breakup. All these things are great, but there is a time and place for everything. On the outside, these aspects look great for an ideal relationship, but it leads to destruction and will eat you from the inside-out after the relationship is over and ruin who you are a christian.
Don’t let the devil have a foot-hold into your relationship because of your good intentions, which leads you becoming all to dependent on them for spiritual, mental, and emotional growth. You have to become independent first and be separate first, then when you are married you can begin to let down the barriers to become more dependent to the other person because you are in a covenant with them.
The only person that you can ever completely depend on is Christ. Let Him lead you, let Him guide you, let Him teach you His ways.
So my challenge is this: What aspects are you showing in your dating relationship that need to be put on hold till marriage to keep you safe from failure?
You’re helping the divorce rate, you’re teaching yourself to give up on the person that you have trusted all these things with and move onto the next…It’s an endless cycle that will lead to divorce in your marriage if you don’t learn to put a stop to it now and learn patience. You can do it!
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. -Phil 4:8

“For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another.” -Titus 3:3

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.” -Colossians 3:16

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