October 24, 2011 Comments Off on Opportunity Earned, Virtue Not Given
Have you ever said the words “God give me patience?”,”God give me strength”,”Make me closer with my family”, or any other virtue you have asked God for lately?
We have a critical error in our thought process of what we expect God to give us as an answer to those requests. We believe that God is going to move in our heart and give us patience when that certain someone is around. We believe that God is going to give us strength as soon as we get off our knees from praying to deal with our situation.
While God may choose to give you that, I believe He is going to do something else instead…
Instead of adding that quality or attribute you seek, God is going to give you an opportunity to have patience or strength.
Instead of waking up the next day with a patience mindset, God is going to put that annoying someone in your life that day to see if you can be patient. Instead of giving you strength over night, God is going to remind you to lean on His strength rather than yours when a similar situation arises the next day at the office. Instead of giving you love for your seemingly unlovable family member, He will give you more opportunities to spend time with that person.
Virtues are never given freely, but are presented through opportunities God gives us throughout our day.
Stop thinking God isn’t hearing your prayer or is giving you cruel and unusual punishment when He is giving you exactly what you’ve been asking for all along.
July 10, 2011 Comments Off on Marry Me? (Pt.1)
I wanted to clear one thing up: I am not proposing to anyone, so don’t get bent out of shape because of the subject. I am currently single. I decided I would take some time, whether it be two days or this entire week, to write a few posts on marriage as it seems to be a popular topic lately (thanks a lot royal wedding). PS- I promise even if you are already married, you’re going to get something out of this.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. -Ephesians 5:25
The reason I opened with Ephesians 5:25 because it is a critical error that society isn’t ingraining into the minds of young men today. I am growing up in a generation that allows men to use women as they like: to make women be of service to any and all requests of men and for the young men of today to use and abuse their so-called right of authority. Jesus gave up His life in ultimate sacrifice for the body believers, the church, because He loved us so much that He didn’t want us to suffer in eternal damnation. When was the last time you even sacrificed a moment of your time with a girl because it was something that would make her happy?
Now guys, before you get all ruffled up…I do understand that Ephesians 5:22 states “22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” However, when was the last time God asked you to compromise your morals? Never. Women are to be submissive to men AS they are to God, whom they serve faithfully.
Finding a significant other is about more than who is willing to put up with your flaws or who lives on the wild side, yet pretends to be a christian on Sunday to make you look like a family on Sundays. Find someone that can live out the fruits of the spirit in your relationship and their own life:
- Love– the couple would love each other and exhibit it in their relationship
- Joy– each would live their life with Joy that God has given us from seeking him first and would exhibit a happiness that could not be matched except through Jesus
- Peace– the relationship would not have consistent fights or anger exhibited
- Long suffering– the couple would be able to get through the hardships
- Kindness– a relationship where they care for each other at every moment
- Goodness– A relationship that dwells on the good and strives to do good for each other and for the world
- Faithfulness– a relationship where they honor the commitment to each other no matter how hard the times may get but honor that God calls us to be faithful to one another
- Gentleness– a woman that is gentle can speak a thousand words to a man and can calm him down in the worst of all situations,
- Self Control– you aren’t putting yourself first in your life or going after the desires of the world that will tear you relationship apart.
If someone isn’t willing to be in a relationship with Christ, then they certainly aren’t willing to be in the kind of relationship you’re looking for. If He/She isn’t willing to love Jesus, then there is no reason they are ever going to love you.
And if you’re already married, it isn’t too late to take your marriage to the next level by not only be an example in the home by exemplifying the fruits of the spirit in the most important relationship you can have- Jesus, but also loving on your family and spouse! It’s never too late for anything.
April 18, 2011 Comments Off on Alternate Route
As we go about driving around, we often come across times when we have to go over speed bumps traveling to the place we want to go. Speed bumps are used to slow a car down in a sensitive area in the city. If someone was to drive too fast, they would run the risk of running over something or someone and causing themselves serious pain. However, we often times try to avoid the speed bumps at all cost because it’s uncomfortable for us to drive over and only slows us down on our route. So, we try to take a new route around the speed bumps; therefore, bypassing the purpose of the speed bump….
In our spiritual journey, God has placed speed bumps all throughout our life. Whether you know it or not, God is going to get your attention by putting a speed bump in a certain part of your life to get you to slow down in a sensitive time in your life. However, if you just go about your life without thinking about the purpose of the trial or difficulty, you’re going to bypass the speed bump and it will all be for a waste. Some speed bumps may be small, like a bad test grade or not making a certain position you tried out for. Some speed bumps may be big, like getting broken up with, losing your purity, getting fired from a job, having a death in the family, or having a addiction. While the bad, in the moment, may seem overwhelming and punishing. Remember, God doesn’t want to punish you but He wants to prepare you for a later time in your life. He has you going through a difficult situation to be able to help someone else out or to give you a powerful testimony!
Remember this: while speed bumps seem awful and uncomfortable to go over, they have a very big purpose for keeping you safe on the road. While you may be beating yourself up over a situation you’re in or you’re on your last leg of trying in life, remember that God has full control and put a speed bump in your life to slow you down and get you to acknowledge Him. God is a mysterious God, He is all knowing, so we often times can’t see how things will fall together, but they will.
So, next time you’re out navigating life. Don’t try and avoid the speed bumps and look for an alternative route because you’re going to be missing out on the plans God has for your life.While you may eventually get to your desired destination via your alternate route, it will have taken you much more time, gas, and frustration to get there. Don’t be afraid of the speed bumps, embrace them, and remember their purpose.
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; …”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-9 ESV
April 15, 2011 § 1 Comment
Think about this, there are millions and millions of women in this world, but how will you ever decide on marrying one? For me I personally am looking for someone that doesn’t love me the most in her life, but instead loves Jesus the most. While this may sound cliche, it is the secret to any happy relationship that will bear fruit in both your life and her own life because she is seeking God first. Think about this, the bible spells out that the fruits of the spirit are: Love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self- control. (Galatians 5:22-23) If a man can find a woman that will love God more than she will love him, then she will honor the fruits of the spirit in her own life because it’s what God calls everyone one of us to do. Imagine this, if a marriage or a relationship consisted of those nine fruits, it would be fruit in your own life and would not consist of the crap that we all hear about on a daily basis in our own life or in a friends.
A modern example of this relationship would consist of these qualities and much more with God first in both partners life: Love– the couple would love each other and exhibit it in their relationship, Joy– each would live their life with Joy that God has given us from seeking him first and would exhibit a happiness that could not be matched except through Jesus, Peace- the relationship would not have consistent fights or anger exhibited, long suffering– the couple would be able to get through the hardships in each others life and would be able to look beyond the surface and suffer through anything with their partner, kindness– a relationship where they care for each other at every moment of the day and show genuine concern, goodness- A relationship that dwells on the good and strives to do good for each other and for the world, faithfulness– a relationship where they honor the commitment to each other no matter how hard the times may get but honor that God calls us to be faithful to one another,gentleness– a woman that is gentle can speak a thousand words to a man and can calm him down in the worst of all situations, and self control- the most important of these, in regards to a relationship, because if you have self control you aren’t putting yourself first in your life or going after the desires of the world that will tear you relationship apart.
God has a special plan for all of us and we all have our own calling. For me, I hope that God truly has someone special for me lined up because I am wanting to mary the best, so that I can give my best effort to my wife and have no worries of ever being heartbroken- For me and my house we will serve the Lord.