Damaged Goods

August 18, 2011 Comments Off on Damaged Goods

13 Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, 14 but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” 15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.” 16 He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” 17 “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. 18 The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” John 4:1-18

There are times in life when we all make mistakes, we all fall, we all fail God. We’re human.

For some of us, we cary the burden of losing our virginity- losing our sense of purity and self worth. We carry the burden and sorrow of feeling our damaged goods.

You feel empty, selfless, and a desire to feel the void in your broken purity with someone/something else. You crave the feeling of belonging again, but are ushered into the sounds and images as tears stream down your face. You can’t understand it, can’t understand why he would do such a thing and walk away. The lights go out, the tears come out. Alone. Broken. Dejected. Hurt. Ashamed. Forgotten. Broke.

You beg for forgiveness from God, shed tears in church as the Pastor condemns the sexually impure; now fully accepting your new stereotype. You avoid conversations with your parents, friends, anything to do with relationships in fear of shedding tears.

The pain sets in, the devil beats you down with reminder after reminder after reminder of how pitiful you are and what an enemy of God you now are- that you will never go to heaven. Convincing you that You were never a christian.

….Silence sets in. The crack of the whip peals the flesh off, the blood burns his back, the dehydration causing the lips to blister…Nails pierced through his hands, only stopped by the bone before the soldier nails them through the bone, his feet broken from the stakes driven through his ankles. He stands, nailed to a blistery piece of a wood, hardly a body even recognizable as human. Crowned with thorns torn into his skull, spat upon, bruised, dying of agony. The Son of Man nailed to a cross, feeling forsaken by the creator of the universe, feeling broken. Alone. Forsaken. Hurt. Forgotten. Dejected.

By his stripes you are healed. By his stripes you are pure again. By his stripes you know you are loved. By his stripes you know He will remember you in heaven. By his stripes your sin is paid for, in full!

You will never be able to go back in time, what’s done is done. But there is no sin that the cross did not cover. You can never reverse that moment in time, but Jesus can give you your purity back. Just a simple touch can accomplish more than you would ever earn in an entire lifetime. All you have to do is believe.

In the opening verse I used about Jesus and the woman at the well, even Jesus still used the woman that had over 6 husbands (never married) to be apart of His ministry. He still offered her salvation, eternal life.

Next time you are remembering your impurity, remember what has already been done for you. Remember that God loves you, always. Remember that you will fail, endlessly, for the rest of your life but that’s ok because that’s why Jesus died for you. God is good all the time and will never leave you alone.


Right//Wrong Thing

July 19, 2011 Comments Off on Right//Wrong Thing

For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. -Romans 7:15

So here’s a little story: This past weekend I was driving a close friend to Atlanta, while we were driving we were listening to music. I knew there was a bad word coming up in the song, so I turned down the song, but ended up blurting out the very word when the time came because I was thinking about the lyrics so hard to know when to turn it back up.

Have you ever had a time when you were trying to do the right thing, but all you were thinking about was not doing that very thing. And because of concentrating all your attention on avoiding that action, you actually ended up doing it because you were so focused on it?

So often times all we think about in life is trying to do the right thing, trying to never mess up. However, it will never be about what you’re going to do, but what has been done for you. We negate the idea that it’s about the heart of doing things- not the actual action itself.

Life isn’t about doing good things for poor people…

It’s more than that.

I think so often times we tend to give up on God once we mess something up because we think that God doesn’t want anything to do with us. We believe just because we lost our purity, accumulated significant death, have poor health, or didn’t get the high paying job that God doesn’t want anything to do with us because that’s what the world is tell you. Read this verse: Luke 17:12-14 “Then as He entered a certain village, there met Him ten men who were lepers, who stood afar off. And they lifted up their voices and said, “Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!” So when He saw them, He said to them, “Go, show yourselves to the priests.” And so it was that as they went, they were cleansed.”

These lepers were deemed as dirty, useless human beings by their society. Having no worth and no purpose, which caused them to stand far away from everyone else. Yet, Jesus still wanted to heal them. Jesus still wanted to make something of them and give them new life!

Over and over, we try to do the right thing but it always seems to turn out wrong. You feel like you can’t ever do anything right, but God isn’t pushing you away. In fact, He wants to bare your burdens for you and take on your sickness because He is capable and a loving God. No matter how messed up, bad, or sick you think you may be; no matter how many of your friends are pushing you away, God wants you. He wants you to come as you, He wants to heal you today and give you joy for tomorrow. Believe and receive Jesus.

“The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.” Psalm 103:8

You’re helping the divorce rate

May 30, 2011 Comments Off on You’re helping the divorce rate

Whether you know it or not, society today is teaching you how to help the divorce rate…You just haven’t realized it yet.

To start off this blog…I have a question, what is the difference of your view of dating someone and marrying them?

Now, I can guarantee you your answer is: we get to have sex.

OK, so you’ve just identified 1 of like the many many differences that should be there that aren’t in relationships today.

Today in relationships we think these things are acceptable and normal:

  • Saying “I love you”
  • Sleeping in the same bed
  • Bible studies together (ill explain at the bottom)
  • Sharing things (cars, money, and resources)
See, we try on people like we try on shoes; we wear our shoes until they fade out of color and then go in and buy a brand new pair. We are in relationships while it’s “fun and exciting” and then when it gets boring or we don’t get what we want, we dump them and get something new.
How many times are you going to say “I love you”? It didn’t work in your past 3 relationships and it’s surely not going to work in this one. Saving I love you till marriage is something to teach you patience, it’s never going to save your relationship. You can say I love you as much as you want, but it’s never going to change who you are on the inside, and that is the only thing that builds strong relationships. The only thing that can save your relationship is you being who you are, nothing else can. You can be fake all you want, you can be the person you’re not, but eventually it’s going to come out and come crashing down. God created you in His own, beautiful image and that’s the person you’re supposed to be.
See, we are all too willing to trade in the “80 for the 20”. We are willing to trade in our life filled with a Godly lifestyle full of great things for a sinful, self-centered life that we think will fulfill our desires. Our Godly lifestyle fulfills 80% of our needs, yet we are willing to throw it away for the clubbing, drinking, hurting people lifestyle that only fulfills 20%, but we think we are missing out on that lifestyle or sexual relationship.
So, why are bible studies/quiet times so bad for non-marital relationships? Well, having a God-centered relationship is great! That’s what you want, but you don’t want it to invade the most special places of your heart until you get married. Having a quiet time/bible study causes a dependance on the leader in the relationship, it causes you to depend on that person for your exposure and insight into God and that is bad. If you ever begin to enter into spiritual intimacy with anyone other than Christ, you are leading yourself into a blackhole and dead end. 
So, what do all these things have in common? All these aspects create a dependance on the other person and that leads to deep pain, anxiety, hurt, and potential for a major breakdown when you breakup. All these things are great, but there is a time and place for everything. On the outside, these aspects look great for an ideal relationship, but it leads to destruction and will eat you from the inside-out after the relationship is over and ruin who you are a christian.
Don’t let the devil have a foot-hold into your relationship because of your good intentions, which leads you becoming all to dependent on them for spiritual, mental, and emotional growth. You have to become independent first and be separate first, then when you are married you can begin to let down the barriers to become more dependent to the other person because you are in a covenant with them.
The only person that you can ever completely depend on is Christ. Let Him lead you, let Him guide you, let Him teach you His ways.
So my challenge is this: What aspects are you showing in your dating relationship that need to be put on hold till marriage to keep you safe from failure?
You’re helping the divorce rate, you’re teaching yourself to give up on the person that you have trusted all these things with and move onto the next…It’s an endless cycle that will lead to divorce in your marriage if you don’t learn to put a stop to it now and learn patience. You can do it!
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. -Phil 4:8

“For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another.” -Titus 3:3

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.” -Colossians 3:16

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