Love Doctor (Pt. 4)

May 19, 2011 Comments Off on Love Doctor (Pt. 4)

This is part 4 of the “love doctor” series this week about relationships. Feel free to leave a comment with any question you may have about relationships or God in general! Today we are going to talk about finding “the one” for you or if you have already found them, how to keep them in your life.

Thanks for visiting the Doctor today, here are your symptoms: wondering if He or She is right for me

I think for so many of us, we wonder about whether or not we are going to ever find “the one” or if we should just settle for someone that thinks we’re cute, totes presh, or funny. We wonder if there could ever possibly be someone out there that will treat us half decent after dating all the douche bags and witches with a “b” in front.

You know you’ve found the right guy when

  • You spend more time praying and reading your bible than making out
  • He values you as a person, not just as his girlfriend
  • His agenda for your relationship isn’t his own, but God’s
  • He values your input more than he values his desire to put it in you
  • His integrity is no different around you in public than in a room alone when nobody is home
  • He encourages you to run after God, not run so you can wear a shorter dress in public
  • His favorite thing about you isn’t your eyes, curves, stomach, tan – it’s your love for God
  • He constantly keeps you accountable to your calling for God, not the amount of times you call him.
  • He loves God more than he loves you (Don’t get mad, you’ll thank me later for this quality)
  • He wants a “God story”, not a “hollywood story” for yalls relationship
You know you’ve found the right girl when
  • Her ability to love you isn’t on her actions, but the fruits of the spirit
  • Her life isn’t dependent on you, but on God
  • She recognizes she has the ability to speak to your good or bad side
  • She accepts you for who you are, not accepts you “earning her love”
  • She spends more time in church than reading “Teen”, “Cosmo”, and “Seventeen”
  • The sexiest thing about her is her love and passion for God, not her body
  • Her greatest passion in life is serving God, not making you a sandwich
  • If you could only spend your life with one person, it would be her
  • She doesn’t tempt you to sin, but tempts you to dream the impossible for God.
  • She knows “hollywood” romances aren’t real, but “God stories” are
The bible tells us to run from evil. If you’re in a relationship you know doesn’t glorify God, you are destined for destruction. God doesn’t call us into destruction, but is a just God and will destroy all evil – you’re unhealthy, ungodly relationship. If you don’t take matters into your own hands and respond to what God is telling you to do in your heart, He will make sure it gets done…the hard way.
Take it from me, I knew I shouldn’t have been in a certain relationship in my life, I knew it wasn’t Godly and I knew where it was going. I somehow thought that I could control my own destiny, that I could get what I wanted, but I quickly learned otherwise. God was telling me to break it off, but I wouldn’t listen. Months later, the relationship ended in the most painful circumstances that left what seemed like a stamp on my life- God made sure that relationship was out of my life whether I liked it or not.
I know many of us don’t have the privilege of being in a relationship right now and you really wish you were, but God isn’t done teaching you something yet. Hold onto this promise for your life: God has handpicked and created someone on this Earth just for you, all you have to do is wait on the Lord and seek Him first.
Sadly enough, the love of our life just isn’t going to appear on our front door step via FedEx overnight- you’re going to have to get out there and work your stuff, not your swag…Your God stuff.
The bible tells us to seek God in prayer and petition for all of our needs, including relationships. However, you can’t sit in your room and pray all night. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and in a position that would allow someone to come into your life. You have to make your life right with God before Mr. or Mrs. right comes in your life. You can’t go without either, you must have both: prayer and position.
If there is one thing I want you to get out of this blog, it is this right here: When your spiritual walk with Christ aligns with His or Her’s, you better run after them with all you’ve got. Your spiritual calling/purpose in life should be able to co-exist with there’s, not ruin it. Both of yall should be seeking God and should run into eachother because you’re seeking God first, not eachother.
1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body”
Philippians 1:9-10 “And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ”
Romans 12:1-2 “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

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